Today I want to side track on the subject of people and how we treat them. It doesn't matter whether you are engaging members, managing your association staff, or trying to inspire your volunteers, how you treat people is 50% responsible for getting them to engage, be inspired, or motivated.
Knowing this begs the question of yourself, "How do I treat people...am I a BULLY or a BUILDER of people?"
A couple of other questions to ponder on this issue are:
- Do you feel you need to emotionally push people around to get them to do what you want?
- Are you more concerned with being right, than having the right decision made?
- Are you comfortable facilitating the right decision vs. being the right decision?
Association work is an amazing opportunity, and is really about creating life change for many people. We have the opportunity to provide resources and networks of people to create transformation in so many people's lives. Yet, in this "feel good" state of transforming people's lives, some feel the need to bully or run over people to get it done.
- Is it because you have insecurities?
- Do you feel inferior to those you lead or work with?
- Do you feel you have to "look good" in front of your peers?
- Are their issues in your past with parents or relationships that are unresolved?
Hear me out on this one phrase: "When PERSONALITIES get in the way of the PURPOSE, that is the beginning of the end of the PURPOSE."
Knowing this, why do we continue to bully those around us to try and get what we want, when it does nothing but serve the purpose of tearing apart a potentially amazing and positive chemistry?
A couple of questions I always ask people about themselves are:
- If a small group of people see you coming down the hallway, do they seek to scatter before you get to them for fear of your wrath, or do they hang out because they want to have a moment of your time because you provide a positive energy in their life?
- When people leave your presence, do they feel better or worse about themselves? Do they feel lifted up and stressed out?
Don't get me wrong...there is a time to be tough, but that is usually when all else has failed. To be a bully, and seemingly tough at every turn, does yourself, those you manage, lead, work with, and your association, a disservice. Being a bully divides people. Being a builder of people brings people together.
When trying to think of an acronym that could easily be remembered on how to treat people you work in any scenario, especially those you lead, I discovered this: "We C.A.T.E.R. to our members, staff, and those we work with." C.A.T.E.R. stands for the following:
Confidence - Impress confidence on your people by having confidence in them.
Authority - Give your people the authority they need to get the job done.
Trust - Let your actions demonstrate that you trust they can make the right choices.
Empower - Don't micromanage. You tell them the "What," let them figure out the "How".
Respect - You hired them...show respect and allow them the latitude to fail AND succeed.
Remember, people want to be a part of an organization that is exciting and empowers them to make a difference. Bullies get in the way of empowerment and create no excitement. Be a BUILDER of people and whatc their lives transform those around them.